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My name is Courtney

Just a twenty-two year old trying to figure out what makes me happiest in life, starting with this blog. What about you?

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Food & Travel

Destination Coffee: Flowers & Bread

I can only think of one word to describe this bakery & cafe: lovely. You can catch me taking pictures of every square inch of this building (inside & out) because the style of it is everything I’ve ever dreamed of in my future home. Everyone working there was just as lovely as the location itself, making it an all around fantastic experience. They even invited us to check out their upstairs event space, which I immediately wanted to book for all upcoming events in my life. Ever. However, the absolute best part of the experience came as I was waiting in line, which doesn’t happen very often. For every customer in front of me who ordered a fresh loaf of bread, the employees would ask “how are you planning on using it?”. It caught some customers off guard, giving back timid answers, thinking if they answered wrong that they wouldn’t be allowed the bread. Others answered back boldly, their plans involving words far beyond my kitchen vocabulary. No matter how the customer responded, the employee enthusiastically handed them the bread with an emphatic “ooh” about their plans, reassuring them that it was bound to be amazing. Every recipe I heard made my mouth water and it was so enlightening to see how many different ways just one, single type of bread could be used. To wrap this up, A++++++ all around rating!!

Latte, Carrot Cake & Tomato Soup
Grilled Cheese (which featured their homemade jam!!) & Side Salad
Part of the Indoor Event Space
Each Table Has Fresh Flowers!
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Skincare Essentials

For the never-ending winter of 2019

I don’t know about you, but my skin is struggling to keep up with this weather. The ups and downs from 60 degrees to 10 degrees are definitely not helping my biggest concern, which is dryness. I’ve never been one for routine, but this past (and present) winter has forced me into it. Below I’m going to share my routine, keeping it in the order in which I use it throughout my process of getting ready.

Kiehl’s Calendula Deep Cleansing Foaming Face Wash

This product was 100% worth the dirty glare I got from my friend as I grabbed it, right after begging her not to let me buy anything else from Ulta. After many trial and errors with other face washes, I found that I preferred foaming over exfoliating, light scented over heavy scented and absolutely needed something that didn’t leave my face feeling oily or sticky after washing it off. This face wash has a light lemon scent, foams perfectly and only takes a very small amount to cover the entire face.

Thayers Witch Hazel Toner

I was slow to hop on the bandwagon with this product, mostly because I didn’t know what a toner was or how to use it. I finally broke down and bought it and I have never turned back. I apply it all over my face (the rose petal scent makes you feel like you’re at a day spa) and it immediately releases the tension in my skin. It’s like when you water a plant for the first time in a long time and it just immediately soaks up all the water and looks a million times better. Picture that, but with your face…

CeraVe Moisturizing Cream

I apply my moisturizer after I’ve let the toner sit and soak into my skin. I’m far past the point of buying a moisturizer just because someone famous uses it, it has a pretty bottle, it’s a name brand, etc. I’ve tried it all. This product (which I buy from target) has worked the absolute best as a moisturizer for me. It’s very thick, so I would definitely suggest starting off with only a bit and working more into the skin as needed.

MAC Strobe Cream

This isn’t as much a skin care product as it is a massive life hack. This gives you the ability to have that just came back from a ten day vacation in the Bahamas glow, without you actually having to go anywhere (except maybe a beauty supply store). I apply this before I put my foundation on, right on the cheekbones, as well as on the forehead, just above the eyebrows.

Mario Badescu Facial Spray

I have used multiple setting sprays and honestly have not been impressed with any of them, before trying this one. I spray this onto my face just before applying my foundation and then finish my entire look by setting it with another spray. I adore this because not only is it light on the skin, but the scent is so refreshing that it literally just makes me feel good to be putting the product on. It doesn’t feel heavy or overwhelming in any way.

Smith’s Rosebud Salve

THIS. This is the chapstick you’ve been looking for your entire life. Or, at least it was for me. I feel like we can probably tell that I’m partial to floral scented things at this point, but this rose scented lip salve is the ultimate amount of hydrating. It also appears glossy on the lips, which I love.

Anatomy of a Fragrance Lotion

Let me just say, I’ve never been a huge fan of lotion. I use it mostly out of necessity or in the summer more than anything. However, after I received this as gift from a friend, I decided I would try it out. I usually don’t like the feeling of lotion, how it sticks to your hands long after you’ve applied it, making them feel greasy or oily. This was the exact opposite. I didn’t even know it was possible to have a lotion without those qualities, but this proved all my doubts wrong. It also comes in candle form, available at Anthropology!

Bioelements Kerafole Face Mask


Last, but not least, is this Bioelements face mask. I have combination skin and this really helps keep it under control and prevent any breakouts from occurring. I actually found this when getting a facial done. The woman performing it recommended doing a seven day purge (aka doing the mask seven days in a row) and then following up by doing it once or twice a week afterwards. After doing the seven days in a row, I was completely clear of any problem areas and my skin felt fresher than it had in a long time. (Side note, I don’t struggle with acne or any major skin concerns, but this did help clear any small breakouts or more sensitive areas I was having issues with).

Those are all the tips I have for now! If you have any products you love/use daily/would highly recommend, pleaseeeee tell me !!! I’m always on the lookout for new skincare products and am always open to trying new things. Hope this helps!

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Blogging 101

Little hacks from someone who still has no idea what they’re doing.

I recently got the opportunity to attend a workshop in the Short North district of Columbus, Ohio. The workshop was led by Stephanie (@bohemiancrown) and Becca (@girlwithoutfilter), two blogging beauties in the Ohio area. Throughout our time there, we got the opportunity to ask some of the questions that we haven’t been able to figure out on our own (aka through google) and I wanted to share some tips I learned! Quick note, I know I have only the bare minimum figured out, but if you have any questions about how I do something or what else I learned from this event, PLEASE feel free to reach out to me!

Helpful Hints for the Amateur Blogger: 

  • Use both general & specific hashtags to promote your posts
  • Don’t use over thirty hashtags (Instagram will think you’re a spam account & hide your content!)
  • Watch out for banned hashtags! This will also bury your content. The list is pretty obscure and has things you would never expect, so do a quick google search of “2019 banned hashtags Instagram”.
  • Look at what is working for other accounts you follow. Watch what hashtags, promotions and other content works best for them and try it on your own account!
  • Use apps to help plan your posts (I use UNUM, which allows you to import images and see how the layout will look on your instagram page before actually posting it)
  • If going for a certain aesthetic, Stephanie & Becca both recommend using Lightroom (desktop version has better options but phone app works too). My favorites include: VSCO (A2 filter), Snapseed (brush tool to lighten exposure), and Facetune 2 (whitening tool to lighten the background of photos).
  • If you have a business account, take advantage of it! Look at the statistics given to see what time posts are most successful, which posts got the most attention, which posts didn’t take off as well as planned. Use the promotion option for posts you would like to get the most reach.
  • Stephanie’s Key to Success: Spend at least two hours a day interacting with people on social media. Starting conversations, replying to comments, answering direct messages, reaching out to other accounts. Interacting with other people in your network is essential to building your brand (whether personal or business). Take the time to build genuine connections with others.
  • Becca’s Key to Success: Networking! Joining Facebook groups relevant to your interests or areas of expertise, talking with other bloggers, going to local events to meet people with similar interests are all great ways to get more reach. Although her rule was similar to Stephanie’s, Becca also encouraged the “real” aspect, showing your true self to your followers and not being afraid to show up on your story dressed in a robe, no makeup on, hair still wrapped in a towel. People can relate to that!

If you’d like to keep reading, here are a couple more in-depth lessons to consider whilst on your blogging journey.

We’re All Learning

The biggest take away I had from this workshop is that we are all constantly learning. Both Becca and Stephanie reiterated how constantly the social media game is changing, especially since they had started out. There’s always a new rule to follow, there’s always a new algorithm to be aware of and you’re always going to be one step behind of someone else. At the end of the day, you’ll never be able to keep track of all of it. Don’t get caught up on the small stuff!

Ask Yourself Why You’re Doing This

When asked why you are doing what you’re doing (whether it be blogging, starting your own business, etc.) the answer should pop into your head immediately. You should be doing this because it’s something you’re so passionate about that you can’t help but want to share it with others. If the first thing that pops into your mind has anything to do with followers, endorsements, or money, you might want to reconsider. This should be something you love!

Make Connections

As we can see from both “keys to success”, building a community is essential. Don’t be afraid to talk to other people! Reach out to other accounts, bloggers, business owners, whoever it may be that is similar in interests. Start conversations, ask questions, build those relationships. It can be intimidating to reach out to people who seem to already have everything figured out. Remember, we all had to start somewhere. At the end of the day, we’re all here to support one another.

Authenticity

Always, always, always be yourself. It can be easy to get caught up in being what you think others want to see. Be nothing but yourself and show the real you. Don’t be afraid to post embarrassing photos, show your average daily routine, post ten pictures in a row on your story of your dog. People relate to this! If you’re true to yourself, your followers will be true to you as well.


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The Art of Self-Care

Sometimes, you just need to take a break. I know, easier said than done. Here are a few quick tricks to fit some time for self-care into a never-ending busy schedule. 

Take a Deep Breath (Or a Couple…)

This sounds too simple, right? If your day is jam packed with work, whenever you have a break in between meetings, classes, etc. , stop for one minute, close your eyes, and take three deep breaths. Listen to the sound of it and focus only on the air going in and out. If it helps, count each time you exhale a breath. If you need (or have more time for) more than three breaths, keep going! It sounds silly but it really does help.

Smile 

Ninety-nine percent of the time, if I’m smiling, I’m happy. It’s a natural reaction for your energy to change when you smile. Muscle memory associates the act of smiling with the emotion of happiness. It’s a natural trigger. With that, find a reason to smile at some point today. Look at a funny picture you took with a friend, a text that made you die of embarrassment originally but now makes you giggle when you talk about it. Speaking of, f you’re in an especially stressful situation, call someone and tell them about it. Every time I go through a particularly frustrating situation, I call my friends with the intent to rant about the situation until I feel I’ve made my point about how unfair my life is and beg the question of “why is the universe doing this to me?”. This usually ends in me laughing it off because talking about it makes me realize how insignificant these events really were. Sometimes you just need to hear it out loud to be able to put things in perspective.

Plan Ahead 

In one of my recent reads, I came across this genius idea of planning little surprises for yourself. I know that I always feel more motivated when I have something to look forward to. It doesn’t have to be a week-long excursion or a bank breaking appointment of some kind. It can be as little as scheduling a coffee date with friends at a café you’ve never been to before. This past Monday, I was in the middle of a crisis while looking at everything I had to do in the upcoming week. I stopped everything I was doing, google searched nearby spas, and booked facials for myself and my roommate. The facials were relatively inexpensive, and it was something we had been wanting to do for a really long time. It was completely worth it. It feels good to treat yourself occasionally! You deserve it!

Eat a Donut

…Or a baked good of any kind. Get on yelp and search “best bakery near me”. Click on the one that looks the most appetizing, has the cutest décor, or the highest rating (whatever floats your boat). Even with the splurge on calories, I can promise you that by the time you take that last bite, you’ll have a huge smile on your face. Baked goods are magical. 

Act of Kindness

I don’t know about you but doing things for others makes me genuinely happy in return. Go out of your way to do something kind for someone else. Hold open a door, offer a ride to your roommate, give someone a bigger tip than usual, pay for the person’s drink behind you. Again, it doesn’t have to be anything huge. If you want to take it a step further, go for it! It can never hurt to build up good karma! 

Hit the Breaks 

Put your phone down (unless, of course, you’re reading this article). Start small with intentionally putting away electronics for five minutes. Set a timer if you’d like. No, it doesn’t count if you do this while napping… Take a break from social media. Even if you don’t think you have a problem with it, try it and see how you feel. I deleted snapchat recently, planning on re-downloading it the next day. It’s been two weeks and I haven’t missed it one bit. Instead of taking on more stressors through social media, tackle some stressors you currently have in your real life with that spare five minutes. 

And if none of these suggestions help, look up pictures of tiny animals. Tiny animals are always a good idea. 

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The Big “A”

I’m not going to lie, the last week has been a struggle. There’s a perfectly logical and scientific explanation as to why I feel like this, but to me it just seems like I just feel like crap for reasons that I can’t explain. 

Struggling with anxiety is simply a pain in the ass. The thing is, I’m a very put together person. I’m the definition of Type A, a huge perfectionist, acutely aware of time (how much or little I have of it), and competitive (especially with myself). Although these characteristics sound great on a resume, they are the absolute worst in real life. 

I push myself harder than anyone else does. I turn everything into a competition. When I first realized I had anxiety issues, I read up on how to control them. One of the most common recommendations was to get into a workout routine. What started off as being a half an hour of cardio to clear my head and take a break from my day, quickly turned into a question of how much longer could I push myself to stay on the treadmill? Could I increase the incline? Could I go faster? Could I outrun the person next to me? Before I knew it, I was spending an hour and a half in the gym and would feel guilty if I didn’t work out as hard as I had the last time. 

So that’s me in a nutshell, lol. I have an incredible ability to get into my own head and set expectations for myself much higher than what anyone else expects from me. 

Although this is a good quality in some aspects of my life, it resulted in a very intense case of anxiety. To be honest, I didn’t even know what anxiety really was or what the side effects looked like until I was sitting on a bed in Urgent Care, convinced I was having a heart attack. When all my tests came back normal, the physician explained that all of the symptoms I was having were indicative of both a heart attack and an anxiety attack. Anxiety attacks literally mimicked the feeling of a heart attack. How effed up is that??? 

After learning about that I realized I had been showing signs of anxiety for a long time. I couldn’t make it through a night without having a nightmare. I still can’t most nights. It got to the point where as a 22-year-old, I couldn’t sleep without a light on at night. I know how dumb that sounds, but I can’t even describe to you the experience of waking up repeatedly each night, drenched in sweat, opening your eyes to nothing but pitch black, remnants if whatever was just terrifying you in your subconscious mind still lingering in your conscious mind. I showed less intense signs like biting the inside of my cheek throughout the day, grinding my teeth, not being able to accomplish any one task because I was too distracted by the thought of the other tasks I had ahead. 

Another fun fact about myself, I don’t like to ask for help. On anything. Going back to my perfectionist personality trait, I like to handle everything myself. When I’m feeling times of extreme stress, I don’t like to tell anyone. Reaching out to people is hard for me in general, so reaching out to someone about something I really struggle with is basically unfathomable to me. I learned pretty quickly that by trying to handle my anxiety by myself, I actually just made it worse. 

I used other methods. I took to working out (casually this time), meditation, reading and even started an anti-anxiety medication. It all helped, it still does help, but sometimes it just isn’t enough. 

So, the other day, I got home from work and sat down to do my homework for the night. Half way through an impossibly hard assignment for an intro level anthropology course, I found myself with my head in my hands, leg shaking uncontrollably, staring blankly at my computer screen, thoughts running a mile a minute. I couldn’t do it. I just needed to talk about it. Talk about everything I had going on, get it off my chest and I would be able to move on and tackle the issues at hand (even the four-hour long assignment for an INTRO level ONLINE anthropology course. Yes, I’m still mad).

I texted my mom, simply saying “I’m having a really hard time right now”. When she asked why, I didn’t have a good answer. Anxiety has this really cool thing it does where it builds literally everything up inside of you so that it’s impossible to point to one thing and say “that, that right there is the reason for all of this”. Pretty sweet, right? I told her I didn’t know, that my anxiety was just so bad at the moment, that I felt like I was on the verge of a breakdown because it was making it impossible to get anything done. She pointed to one issue and named that as the cause. When I tried to explain to her that wasn’t what I was feeling, she argued with me about it and shut down the conversation. 

The next day, she told me she hated when I told her I was feeling that way because she didn’t know what to say and it made her worry. I’m not going to lie, I felt resentful that in the one moment when I needed her to tell me everything was okay, I had to be the one to reassure her that everything was fine and not to worry, I would work everything out. 

I knew what I had wanted my mom to say in the moment. I had wanted her to validate what I was feeling. I wanted her to tell me that the way I was feeling was completely understandable, completely normal under the circumstances. I wanted her to tell me that everything would work out and that she loved me. Instead, because she couldn’t relate exactly to how I was feeling, she got defensive and pushed the situation aside because she didn’t know how to properly handle it.

Neither of us were wrong. I wasn’t wrong for reaching out to her. She wasn’t wrong for not being able to understand my situation. I realized that it would be so simple for me to tell her what I needed to hear when I reached out to her in those situations. Everything I needed to hear were things she was more than capable of saying, of meaning even. It would make her feel better to be able to know how to respond in the situation. 

Pro Tip: Go to the person you are most comfortable reaching out to. Explain your situation to them, whatever you struggle with the most. Tell them what you need to hear when you reach out to them in hard times. It can be the same as mine, something reassuring like “you know everything will be okay and I love you”. It can be something funny, like a pic of their dog being a goofball. It can be something cheesy, like the time you met that person. Anything that gets you out of the headspace you’re in, even just for the second that they’re saying it to you. 

Trust me. They’ll appreciate knowing how to help you just as much as you’ll appreciate being helped. 

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Destination Coffee: Kittie’s Bakery

I don’t even know how to describe the perfection of this experience, so I’m just going to run you through the whole scenario. We pulled into Bexley, the historic part where buildings are brick, the little strip looking weathered and quaint. We spot the café, located on the corner. Street parking is free… that’s right, free. We park by one of those buildings you look at and wonder how many people were turned down for loans inside before it was turned into the fancy af Starbucks that is now. When we enter Kittie’s, we realize there’s the option to walk into a local bookstore. I actually felt like a kid in a candy shop because this was like my favorite spot of Barnes & Noble but on a whole new level. This was authentic, with books you couldn’t find in chain stores, bakery items made fresh each morning, and coffee that could please just about anyone. Needless to say, this is hands down my new favorite place in Ohio (maybe even on this planet) and yes, I did purchase at least two books and yes, I am now part of the bookstore rewards program. Please, for the love of all that is holy, make a stop here. Now I’m going to bombard you with the million and one pictures I took while in my state of pure bliss. Pretty sure I blacked out, not kidding guys, you should see my camera roll… 

cinnamon rolls, cinnamon scone & nashville hoodie

Courtney’s Order: Nashville Hoodie & Cinnamon Roll.

  • coffee: A+ . The flavor of the nashville hoodie perfectly mimicked the flavor of the cinnamon roll. Could you ask for anything more???
  • food: A++ . I know, I’m breaking the rules right now, but they are 100% not kidding about this being the best cinnamon roll around. It was the definition of perfect, more firm on the outside, warm & gooey in the center. I can’t talk about it anymore, I already want ten more.
  • aesthetic (coffee): A+ . I loved the blue accent color they used throughout the cafe, even incorporating it into their cup color! Also, thought all foam art was the same until I saw this foam art…
  • aesthetic (interior): A +. I know I sound dramatic but a one of a kind bakery attached to a one of a kind book store!!!! The interior of both made me smile every time I took a minute to look around. Never wanted to leave.
the foam art. the blue cup. the tiny spoon. *cries*

Lucia’s Order: Salted Maple Latte & Cinnamon Roll.

  • coffee: B+ . The salted maple was impressive but making a mental note that I would like it a bit sweeter in the future!
  • food: A+ . Best cinnamon roll I’ve ever tasted, 12/10, would work there just to have access to them on the daily.
  • aesthetic (coffee): A . I was ready to steal my tiny blue mug and the foam art was so pretty!
  • aesthetic (interior): A . Very cute with the bookstore but it’s a bit small in and of itself. However, the outdoor seating definitely redeemed the smaller indoor seating! They even had little heat lamps and the blue stools made the area bright and comfortable.

Jake’s Order: Iced Nashville Hoodie & Cinnamon Scone.

  • coffee: B+ . Would’ve liked to have been able to taste the espresso a bit more, will be adding an extra shot next time!
  • food: A . Made a mistake and didn’t get the scone warmed up… regrets.
  • aesthetic (coffee): B+ . They sell the cold cups that they serve the iced drinks in, which is really cool!
  • aesthetic (interior): A . Without the bookstore it wouldn’t be the same but there’s nothing better than a good book & coffee combo.
a peek into the bookstore (they even have a book club!!)
this picture & the picture above are taken from the same spot
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Oatmeal Chocolate Chip Pancakes

These are the EASIEST and best tasting pancakes !! You literally throw everything into a blender and then cook it on the stove. That’s it. Done. How impressive is that?! Along with the chocolate chips that are recommended, I would also consider adding fresh raspberries, almond butter, or any flavored syrups you have! The dark chocolate chips taste amazing with any fruit flavors mixed in.

mouth. is. watering.

Ingredients:

  • 1/2 cup old fashioned oats
  • 1/4 unsweetened almond milk
  • 1 ripe banana
  • 1/2 tsp baking powder
  • 1/4 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/4 tsp vanilla extract
  • 2 dates, pitted
  • 3 tbsp dark chocolate chips (enjoy life brand are highly recommended!)
  • olive oil (or any type of cooking oil for pan)

Directions

  • Blend all ingredients in blender or food processor, except chocolate chips. Mix well.
  • Fold in chocolate chips to mixture.
  • Scoop out heaping tablespoons and cook.
  • Finally, eat all of them in one sitting.

I know this seems way too easy to result in anything fantastic but just trust me. Let me know how yours turn out or if you have any suggestions to mix up the recipe at all!!

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Breaking The Cycle

I’m not going to lie, this is really hard for me to write about. Again, I hate, neigh loathe, being vulnerable. This would be the reason I have five million doubts running through my mind at the moment and why I’m on the third draft of this piece in under an hour (I’ve also listened to three full albums on Spotify, worked out for an hour and stress ate three little bags of gummi bears in procrastination but anywayssss). I know it needs to be said and I know I’m not the only one who has gone through this. So, here we go. 

I just want to give a quick background as to why I am the way that I am. I’ve been very perceptive to relationships from a young age, taking note of the rewards and consequences of them. I saw the happiness they could bring, the laughs, the comfort, the inside jokes that made each person in-the-know smile when it popped into their thoughts. I also saw the hurt relationships could bring. I saw people fake feelings, I saw people anxiously wait to hear words they knew they would never hear, saw people change into someone they thought would please another. It was from all of these observations that I subconsciously built an arms-length distance between myself and everyone I built a relationship with. 

It seems rather crazy, but it was only within the last year that I even realized I did this. I kept wondering why it was so easy for me to let go of people, when to others it seemed rather detrimental for a long period of time. Not to say I didn’t cry a few times, didn’t think through the should’ve, would’ve, could’ve process after something didn’t work out, but nothing ever really stuck with me. I also realized that after one problem, I was able to be done. I had no problem cutting them out of my life, moving on for what I thought was the better. Once I decided to be done, I was done. I never saw a problem with this.

And then I met a guy. The story of how we met is equally hilarious and embarrassing (may or may not involve me falling off of a table) so we’re just going to skip ahead a bit! Listen, I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but this wasn’t one of them. We clicked pretty fast and I found myself doing things I never normally took the time or energy to do when I was talking to someone. I absolutely hate talking on the phone, but I would easily spend two or three hours talking about nothing on the phone with him. I caught myself smiling when he would tell stories about his family, who I didn’t even know. I was even starting to listen to country music. No, not even the pop country that most of us can endure. This was deep, twangy (what I would earlier classify as “gross” and shudder at) country music. The worst part was, I actually liked it. I liked all of it. 

Moving forward, I realized that in a very short period of time, I’d become very comfortable with him. It was a level of comfort that I hadn’t really known before and was slightly terrifying, but I pushed back those thoughts. Things took a turn and slowed down a bit. Keeping in touch went from daily, to weekly, to monthly. 

This is usually where I thrive. This is where I’m able to dive into work/school/whatever and walk away clean. I couldn’t figure out why little things still made me think of him and why I still wanted to text him when something funny happened. I couldn’t figure out why it was still causing me to be distracted, why I hadn’t woken up and been able to push the memory aside as I usually did. 

Then, out of the blue, I got a call from him. He came over, we talked for the first time in a while and it honestly shocked me when I literally felt the same exact way I had before about him. Like I said, when I decided to be done, when I stopped talking to someone, I was done. I’m not kidding when I say I was able to turn my feelings off for them. I only ever thought of them as friends from that point forward. This was different. I had gone through the same process but still felt the same way, still felt happy to have him there. 

Before we went to sleep, I leaned over and kissed him on the cheek. He grumbled something into the pillow while I was laying back down. I turned to let him repeat what he said. “You would spoil me,” he said, head still in the pillow. He left the next day, but that line replayed in my head long after he was gone. 

I couldn’t figure out why I was still thinking about it, so I enlisted the help of my friends. It seemed the common response from my friends was that it was upsetting that he would say that when we weren’t together, that he was able to disconnect from the situation in a way that I wasn’t able to, and ultimately that men were idiots (sorry guys). I listened to all of their opinions, looked through that perspective. None of it was the right answer for me. 

It took me two whole days of thinking about this line to realize that what he had said hadn’t made me upset at all. It was quite the contrary, actually. Without knowing it, he had actually said one of the greatest things I had ever heard about myself. 

Guys, I did it!!!! 

He was absolutely right, I would spoil him. There was no arms-length distance between us. For the first time, I had put my arm down and allowed myself to fully and truly care about someone else. With his help, I broke a cycle that I honestly didn’t think I’d ever be able to break. I had subconsciously built such a defensive response towards relationships for so long that I didn’t think I’d ever be able to change it. He showed me I could. 

I didn’t hear from him again after that night. This is probably the most important part of this piece. I’m telling my side of the story. There’s a good chance that he never felt the same way I did and that is completely okay. Of course it hurts, of course it’s embarrassing but the takeaway from this was so much bigger than all of that. I kept wondering why I ‘d met him in the first place (the chances were one in a million) but this was why. He was honest, he was kind and he showed me that by putting my guard down, I could meet someone truly incredible. 

I don’t have one bad thing to say about him. He’s an amazing person with a big heart and deserves just as much time to find himself as he needs. The only thing I have to say is thank you. Thank you for letting me in, thank you for letting me care, thank you for showing me I’m capable of so much more than I thought. 

I’m not quite sure how to end this, but I do want to say one more thing. It’s always easier to see the bad than it is to see the good. If I had settled on the response that what he’d said was mean in some way, I would’ve never been able to realize this huge detail about myself. Don’t settle for the easy answer. Settle for the answer that feels right, that you know to be true. 

See you guys next time. 

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Destination Coffee: Hemingway’s Coffee Nook

Of course on the day we decided to go on another coffee run, the universe decided it was the perfect time to drop the temperature from 60 degrees to 20 degrees. Thanks, Ohio, love ya! Although this cafe was a pleasant escape from the tundra we were in outside, it would be absolutely perfect in the summer. It sits inside an office building that opens up directly onto the Columbus Commons (a little park featuring a Jeni’s Ice Cream stand, the cutest little carousel and a stage for various performances!). The interior is a bit on the smaller side, but is the perfect space to go solo with a good book in hand!

ode to Paris & cherry danish

Courtney’s Order: Ode to Paris & Cherry Danish.

  • coffee: A- . The Ode to Paris was very tasty!! Would definitely recommend. Was a classic style drink, so if you don’t like to stray from the basics, this will be the drink for you.
  • food: B . The cherry danish was good but they don’t have enough space to bake in house. Would definitely still order a bakery item though! Can never go wrong with a pastry & coffee match up.
  • aesthetic (coffee): A- . I l o v e d the fact that they had an array of coffee mugs they used if the coffee order wasn’t to-go! Reminiscent of Friends and the Central Perk experience, so of course I adored it.
  • aesthetic (interior): B+ . You are literally submerged in everything and anything related to Hemingway. Very unique atmosphere, no where else like it in Columbus!
The Jack Frost & Double Chocolate Chip Muffin

Lucia’s Order: The Jack Frost & Double Chocolate Chip Muffin

  • coffee: A . The Jack Frost was peppermint flavor-based and they mastered the flavor perfectly! It was also topped with a frost blue peppermint whipped cream, which was the perfect addition.
  • food: B . The muffin was good and definitely went well with the drink. The main focus for them was definitely their coffee rather than food!
  • aesthetic (coffee): B+ . The blue whipped cream on top of the drink was so cute and unique. I’ve never seen that before! Can also tell they took a lot of time in thinking of the names of the drinks which I really appreciated.
  • aesthetic (interior): B+ . If you’re going to do a Paris theme, I say go all in with it. That’s exactly what they did!
Gingersnap Latte & Lemon Donut

Special Guest Jake’s Order (aka Lucia’s boyfriend): Gingersnap Latte & Lemon Donut.

  • coffee: B+ . The flavor was great! Cooled off pretty fast but probably just because of the size of the mug and the large amount of coffee ordered.
  • food: B+ . They did nail the lemon flavor, wasn’t too sweet and wasn’t too tart. Again, not their main focus though!
  • aesthetic (coffee): A . Really enjoyed the different mugs and how they used a specific mug for certain orders.
  • aesthetic (interior): B . A little cramped! Overall, really enjoyed the atmosphere though.

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Blueberry Oat Muffins

If you’re like me, you’re in a constant state of thinking about baked goods. Muffins, cakes, cookies… I love them all. My biggest dilemma comes after I’ve already inhaled whatever baked good is in front of me and I then realized I’ve most likely just consumed my entire days worth of calories in one sitting. Also, it’s only nine in the morning. I scoured Pinterest in hopes of a recipe that was both satisfying and healthy-ish (I know, asking a lot) but I didn’t find anything to check off both boxes until I came across this recipe! Which leads me to sharing it with you. So, if you enjoy baked goods and enjoy not feeling icky the rest of the day, I gotchya covered!

Side Note: These are honestly so easy to make and all the ingredients can be substituted to fit whatever you have in your kitchen. They’re perfect for those of us who may not have the time (or the energy) to whip up a full breakfast every morning. Also, when you need that afternoon snack to hold you over, these are the perfect solution. Hope everyone enjoys as much as I do!! I found this recipe for blueberry oat muffins on Pinterest, also available at https://www.melskitchencafe.com/greek-yogurt-oat-blueberry-muffins/.

I could stare at these alllll day

Ingredients (my version)

  • 1 cup (8 oz) Greek yogurt (I used a combo of vanilla & plain, nonfat)
  • 1/4 cup unsweetened vanilla almond milk
  • 1 large egg
  • 1 tsp vanilla
  • 1/3 cup honey
  • 1 cup old fashioned rolled oats
  • 3/4 cup whole wheat flour
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 1/2 tsp baking soda
  • 1/4 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/4 tsp salt
  • 1 1/2 cups blueberries
  • 4 tbsp butter (or coconut oil), melted

Directions

  • Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Using a 12 count muffin tin, line or grease with non-stick spray.
  • In a medium bowl, whisk together yogurt, milk, egg, vanilla & honey.
  • In a large bowl, whisk together oats, flour, baking powder, baking soda, cinnamon & salt. Gently fold in blueberries.
  • Add the yogurt mixture & melted butter (or coconut oil) to the oat mixture. Stir until just combined, try not to over-mix!
  • Equally separate mixture into muffin tins. You can add a few left over blueberries to the top if you’d like!
  • Bake 14-17 minutes, until a toothpick comes out clean and they are a nice golden brown.
  • Let cool & then dig in!! I kept mine stored in an air tight bag for a week and they were still good.
Enjoy!

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